The Thoughtful Gay Man is creating a world where
every gay man lives empowered & from the heart.

The Thoughtful Gay Man is a movement of gay men, dedicated to creating and fostering community and shaping gay culture for the better. For too long, we’ve let corporations, Media, and money tell us who we are and what we want. It’s time we put a line in the sand and become the community we desire to see and be. We celebrate and embrace the physical part of our being, but also see ourselves as spiritual beings. We believe in shaping a stronger gay community, not just for ourselves, but for future generations of gay men. We want to be men that pursue vulnerability, authentic connections, forgiveness, and justice. To create spaces for gay men to trust one another again. To revive and breathe new life into seeing each other as brothers instead of rivals. We choose to love one another even when we disagree. And we will disagree about many issues.

A Thoughtful Gay Man…

    • Creates space for genuine community, connection, and belonging.
    • Shapes and influences gay culture in powerful and positive ways.
    • Sees himself and others as both spiritual and physical beings.
    • Is dedicated to leaving the gay community better for future generations of gay men.
    • Confronts racism, classism, ageism, and other forms of prejudice, discrimination, and belittling with an approach of grace and love.
    • Treats gay men and all people with the dignity, kindness, and the respect they deserve.
    • Practices vulnerability, forgiveness, and authenticity in friendships and romantic relationships.
    • Encourages and challenges himself and others to grow in every area of life. This includes honest self-reflection and personal growth.

None of us practice these things to perfection. Not all of us even agree completely on these things. And that’s okay. We don’t have a monopoly on answers to life, but we strive to maintain an open heart and mind. Together, we form a thoughtful, welcoming movement, dead-set on transforming the community that we love and a community the world needs.

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Join us if you’re looking for deeper conversations, vulnerability, and other gay men who want to be their best selves.

During these Meetups you can expect:
– Conversations, speakers, and ideas that will challenge you to grow as a person
– Leaving each Meetup with more awareness of yourself and PRACTICAL tools to live the life you desire
– Time and space to explore, challenge, and discover your own assumptions and beliefs
– Meeting people that have different experiences of life than you do
– An opportunity to make new friends!

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What guys are saying about
The Thoughtful Gay Man

“I’m looking forward to more!” – Jeff

“It was exactly what I was looking for…” – Frankie S.

“An exciting and encouraging beginning to a purposeful
community-building group for men.” – Nick

“I came away feeling happy about the experience, and looking forward
to future meetups.” – Eric

“Awesome!” – Eugene

“Nice conversations. Socially agreeable and easy crowd to hang out with.” – David

“Everything it claims to be.” – Thad



Run the World! How to Live From A Place of Power
If you’ve ever struggled with finding confidence in your life.
Sunday, April 27th at 7pm | RSVP HERE


Live Music & Hangout at The Twisted Vine
Live music and wine! Come hang out and get to know each other.
Thursday, April 17th at 7:30pm | RSVP HERE

How to Strengthen Your Friendships With Gay Men (And All People)
Let’s explore a better approach to building friendships.
Sunday, March 16th at 7pm | RSVP HERE

Intentions & Living a “Life of Yes!”
Setting Intentions for 2014
Monday, Feb. 17th at 7pm | RSVP HERE EVENT IS FULL 

Live Music & Hangout at The Twisted Vine
Live music and wine! Come hang out and get to know each other.
Thursday, Feb. 20th at 7:30pm | RSVP HERE

The Thoughtful Gay Man Kick-Off
Meet ‘n Greet & Setting Intentions for 2014
Sunday, Jan. 19th at 7pm | RSVP HERE